Wednesday, April 21, 2010
My Story
I am starting this blog as a way to heal from my marriage, which was destroyed, in large part, by Facebook. My husband became addicted to Facebook during our marriage. I don't know any other way to describe it other than an addiction. An addiction is something that has a hold over you to the point that you don't think you can live without it. There all types of addiction, and Facebook addiction is as real as addiction to porn or drugs.
My husband's routine began to revolve around Facebook. He would come home from work at five o'clock and sit on the couch, in his underwear, and stay on Facebook until bedtime at around eleven. We were already having problems in our marriage and Facebook finished it off. I would try to talk to my husband and he wouldn't look up from his computer. It was obvious that he was not paying any attention to me. When I asked him to talk with me about our marriage, he wouldn't put down Facebook. When I became insistent, he would either refuse, slam the computer shut, or yell at me that I wasn't going to tell him what to do. Maybe if I'd had a Facebook account, I could've gotten him to communicate with me.
His blackberry was another part of this. Any vibration from his blackberry had him immediately looking at it for a post from Facebook. Once, we were in a nice restaurant for dinner. The waiter was waiting to take our order, but my husband wouldn't put down his blackberry long enough. When I asked him to please put the phone down, he became angry with me. This was so embarrassing.
There were things that happened that made me resentful of this website, and made me realize how damaging this type of social networking is to relationships. I would look over at his laptop during his time on Facebook and see pictures of women that were on his "Friends" list. How many Facebook addicts have begun affairs, physical or of the heart, through connections on this website? How many children are ignored because their parents are addicted to this website? And, how many adults out there don't realize what danger they are putting themselves or their children in by placing everything about them on the world wide web?
I am a normal person and have better things to do with my life than waste my time and energy on Facebook. It is a sad commentary on our society when we allow something like this to absorb us so much that we allow it to destroy the relationships around us. I know that I am not alone and am reaching out to those of you out there who have also experienced the destruction of relationships because of Facebook. Please post your comments. You and I CAN get through this if we join together.
My husband's routine began to revolve around Facebook. He would come home from work at five o'clock and sit on the couch, in his underwear, and stay on Facebook until bedtime at around eleven. We were already having problems in our marriage and Facebook finished it off. I would try to talk to my husband and he wouldn't look up from his computer. It was obvious that he was not paying any attention to me. When I asked him to talk with me about our marriage, he wouldn't put down Facebook. When I became insistent, he would either refuse, slam the computer shut, or yell at me that I wasn't going to tell him what to do. Maybe if I'd had a Facebook account, I could've gotten him to communicate with me.
His blackberry was another part of this. Any vibration from his blackberry had him immediately looking at it for a post from Facebook. Once, we were in a nice restaurant for dinner. The waiter was waiting to take our order, but my husband wouldn't put down his blackberry long enough. When I asked him to please put the phone down, he became angry with me. This was so embarrassing.
There were things that happened that made me resentful of this website, and made me realize how damaging this type of social networking is to relationships. I would look over at his laptop during his time on Facebook and see pictures of women that were on his "Friends" list. How many Facebook addicts have begun affairs, physical or of the heart, through connections on this website? How many children are ignored because their parents are addicted to this website? And, how many adults out there don't realize what danger they are putting themselves or their children in by placing everything about them on the world wide web?
I am a normal person and have better things to do with my life than waste my time and energy on Facebook. It is a sad commentary on our society when we allow something like this to absorb us so much that we allow it to destroy the relationships around us. I know that I am not alone and am reaching out to those of you out there who have also experienced the destruction of relationships because of Facebook. Please post your comments. You and I CAN get through this if we join together.
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